{"id":12977,"date":"2017-08-16T06:19:50","date_gmt":"2017-08-16T06:19:50","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/kmitchellcoaching.com\/?p=12977"},"modified":"2017-08-16T02:21:42","modified_gmt":"2017-08-16T02:21:42","slug":"ride-the-wave","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/kmitchellcoaching.com\/staging\/8673\/ride-the-wave\/","title":{"rendered":"Ride the Wave"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\" wp-image-12994 alignright\" src=\"http:\/\/kmitchellcoaching.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/07\/Ride-The-Wave2.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"388\" height=\"389\" srcset=\"https:\/\/kmitchellcoaching.com\/staging\/8673\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/07\/Ride-The-Wave2-66x66.png 66w, https:\/\/kmitchellcoaching.com\/staging\/8673\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/07\/Ride-The-Wave2-150x150.png 150w, https:\/\/kmitchellcoaching.com\/staging\/8673\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/07\/Ride-The-Wave2-200x201.png 200w, https:\/\/kmitchellcoaching.com\/staging\/8673\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/07\/Ride-The-Wave2-300x300.png 300w, https:\/\/kmitchellcoaching.com\/staging\/8673\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/07\/Ride-The-Wave2-400x401.png 400w, https:\/\/kmitchellcoaching.com\/staging\/8673\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/07\/Ride-The-Wave2-600x602.png 600w, https:\/\/kmitchellcoaching.com\/staging\/8673\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/07\/Ride-The-Wave2-768x770.png 768w, https:\/\/kmitchellcoaching.com\/staging\/8673\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/07\/Ride-The-Wave2.png 795w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 388px) 100vw, 388px\" \/>What is the hardest part of being human?<\/p>\n<p>I would argue that most people&#8217;s answer to that question would have to do with dealing\u00a0with difficult emotions that stem from difficult life situations. Something bad or burdensome happens and we feel a certain way. Often we feel ANGRY or SCARED, or perhaps even SAD and LONELY. These are emotions. Emotions are a complex pattern of changes,\u00a0feelings, thinking patterns, and behavioral reactions in response to a situation perceived to\u00a0be personally significant. AND, if left unchecked, can influence our mood for hours, days,\u00a0even weeks and months.<\/p>\n<p>I would like to suggest that we learn to &#8216;Ride the\u00a0Wave&#8217; of our strong emotions. That instead of resisting against them\/avoiding or numbing\u00a0them (with alcohol, drugs, food), that we experience them. What&#8217;s the worst that can\u00a0happen? We feel bad for a period of time? Yes. What&#8217;s the best that can happen? We get over it and move on? Yes.<\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;d like to suggest a prescription for dealing with strong and difficult emotions:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>First, name the emotion &#8211; I am &#8216;Angry&#8217;.<\/li>\n<li>Second, notice the physical sensations in your body &#8211; I am starting to sweat and I&#8217;m getting a stomach ache.<\/li>\n<li>Third, breathe. Take 5 deep breaths.<\/li>\n<li>Fourth, allow yourself to experience the anger (note how negative you feel and allow yourself to feel it).<\/li>\n<li>Fifth, observe outside of yourself your feelings and reactions. &#8220;I notice I am getting ready to yell at her and I feel like an 8 on a 1-to-10 scale of anger.&#8221; Observation can help you experience the emotion without being overcome by it.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>When you become more and more aware of your experience of a strong emotion like anger, this gives you greater control over it. You train yourself to not be overcome by it. Anger, specifically, feels both good and bad in the moment. You feel empowered over the situation when you are intensely angry, but also immensely uncomfortable and even shameful once you start to come down from it.<\/p>\n<p>Riding the Wave of emotions allows us to move through a strong feeling faster. There are no &#8216;wrong&#8217; feelings. All feelings are legitimate and okay. We get into trouble when our behaviors become negative in reaction to our feelings.<\/p>\n<p>Play with this concept in your real life and see if it can help you to not only feel better, but also to feel more in control of your strong emotions. And then ask yourself, &#8220;What did I learn from this?&#8221; Then use this information to move forward, which will ultimately help you as you ride through every day of your life.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>What is the hardest part of being human? I would argue that most people&#8217;s answer to that question would have to do with dealing\u00a0with difficult emotions that stem from difficult life situations. Something bad or burdensome happens and we feel a certain way. Often we feel ANGRY or SCARED, or perhaps even SAD and LONELY. These  [&#8230;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":12994,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"nf_dc_page":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[93,108,96,82,109,119],"tags":[118,101,77,123,104,122,71],"class_list":["post-12977","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-anger-management","category-emotions","category-mindful-practices","category-stress-management","category-understanding","category-vulnerability","tag-being-authentic","tag-coping-mechanisms","tag-growth-mindset","tag-presence","tag-strategies","tag-thoughts","tag-wellness"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v27.5 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/product\/yoast-seo-wordpress\/ -->\n<title>Ride the Wave - Karin Mitchell Coaching<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/kmitchellcoaching.com\/staging\/8673\/ride-the-wave\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"Ride the Wave - Karin Mitchell Coaching\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"What is the hardest part of being human? I would argue that most people&#8217;s answer to that question would have to do with dealing\u00a0with difficult emotions that stem from difficult life situations. Something bad or burdensome happens and we feel a certain way. Often we feel ANGRY or SCARED, or perhaps even SAD and LONELY. These [...]\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:url\" content=\"https:\/\/kmitchellcoaching.com\/staging\/8673\/ride-the-wave\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:site_name\" content=\"Karin Mitchell Coaching\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:published_time\" content=\"2017-08-16T06:19:50+00:00\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:image\" content=\"https:\/\/kmitchellcoaching.com\/staging\/8673\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/07\/Ride-The-Wave2.png\" \/>\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:width\" content=\"795\" \/>\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:height\" content=\"797\" \/>\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:type\" content=\"image\/png\" \/>\n<meta name=\"author\" content=\"Karin Mitchell\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:card\" content=\"summary_large_image\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:label1\" content=\"Written by\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data1\" content=\"Karin Mitchell\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:label2\" content=\"Est. reading time\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data2\" content=\"2 minutes\" \/>\n<script type=\"application\/ld+json\" class=\"yoast-schema-graph\">{\"@context\":\"https:\\\/\\\/schema.org\",\"@graph\":[{\"@type\":\"Article\",\"@id\":\"https:\\\/\\\/kmitchellcoaching.com\\\/staging\\\/8673\\\/ride-the-wave\\\/#article\",\"isPartOf\":{\"@id\":\"https:\\\/\\\/kmitchellcoaching.com\\\/staging\\\/8673\\\/ride-the-wave\\\/\"},\"author\":{\"name\":\"Karin Mitchell\",\"@id\":\"https:\\\/\\\/kmitchellcoaching.com\\\/#\\\/schema\\\/person\\\/3dcf17a0be07adcca714da4461bf0b89\"},\"headline\":\"Ride the Wave\",\"datePublished\":\"2017-08-16T06:19:50+00:00\",\"mainEntityOfPage\":{\"@id\":\"https:\\\/\\\/kmitchellcoaching.com\\\/staging\\\/8673\\\/ride-the-wave\\\/\"},\"wordCount\":438,\"commentCount\":0,\"image\":{\"@id\":\"https:\\\/\\\/kmitchellcoaching.com\\\/staging\\\/8673\\\/ride-the-wave\\\/#primaryimage\"},\"thumbnailUrl\":\"https:\\\/\\\/kmitchellcoaching.com\\\/staging\\\/8673\\\/wp-content\\\/uploads\\\/2017\\\/07\\\/Ride-The-Wave2.png\",\"keywords\":[\"being authentic\",\"coping mechanisms\",\"growth mindset\",\"presence\",\"strategies\",\"thoughts\",\"wellness\"],\"articleSection\":[\"Anger Management\",\"Emotions\",\"Mindful Practices\",\"Stress Management\",\"Understanding\",\"Vulnerability\"],\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\",\"potentialAction\":[{\"@type\":\"CommentAction\",\"name\":\"Comment\",\"target\":[\"https:\\\/\\\/kmitchellcoaching.com\\\/staging\\\/8673\\\/ride-the-wave\\\/#respond\"]}]},{\"@type\":\"WebPage\",\"@id\":\"https:\\\/\\\/kmitchellcoaching.com\\\/staging\\\/8673\\\/ride-the-wave\\\/\",\"url\":\"https:\\\/\\\/kmitchellcoaching.com\\\/staging\\\/8673\\\/ride-the-wave\\\/\",\"name\":\"Ride the Wave - Karin Mitchell Coaching\",\"isPartOf\":{\"@id\":\"https:\\\/\\\/kmitchellcoaching.com\\\/#website\"},\"primaryImageOfPage\":{\"@id\":\"https:\\\/\\\/kmitchellcoaching.com\\\/staging\\\/8673\\\/ride-the-wave\\\/#primaryimage\"},\"image\":{\"@id\":\"https:\\\/\\\/kmitchellcoaching.com\\\/staging\\\/8673\\\/ride-the-wave\\\/#primaryimage\"},\"thumbnailUrl\":\"https:\\\/\\\/kmitchellcoaching.com\\\/staging\\\/8673\\\/wp-content\\\/uploads\\\/2017\\\/07\\\/Ride-The-Wave2.png\",\"datePublished\":\"2017-08-16T06:19:50+00:00\",\"author\":{\"@id\":\"https:\\\/\\\/kmitchellcoaching.com\\\/#\\\/schema\\\/person\\\/3dcf17a0be07adcca714da4461bf0b89\"},\"breadcrumb\":{\"@id\":\"https:\\\/\\\/kmitchellcoaching.com\\\/staging\\\/8673\\\/ride-the-wave\\\/#breadcrumb\"},\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\",\"potentialAction\":[{\"@type\":\"ReadAction\",\"target\":[\"https:\\\/\\\/kmitchellcoaching.com\\\/staging\\\/8673\\\/ride-the-wave\\\/\"]}]},{\"@type\":\"ImageObject\",\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\",\"@id\":\"https:\\\/\\\/kmitchellcoaching.com\\\/staging\\\/8673\\\/ride-the-wave\\\/#primaryimage\",\"url\":\"https:\\\/\\\/kmitchellcoaching.com\\\/staging\\\/8673\\\/wp-content\\\/uploads\\\/2017\\\/07\\\/Ride-The-Wave2.png\",\"contentUrl\":\"https:\\\/\\\/kmitchellcoaching.com\\\/staging\\\/8673\\\/wp-content\\\/uploads\\\/2017\\\/07\\\/Ride-The-Wave2.png\",\"width\":795,\"height\":797},{\"@type\":\"BreadcrumbList\",\"@id\":\"https:\\\/\\\/kmitchellcoaching.com\\\/staging\\\/8673\\\/ride-the-wave\\\/#breadcrumb\",\"itemListElement\":[{\"@type\":\"ListItem\",\"position\":1,\"name\":\"Home\",\"item\":\"https:\\\/\\\/kmitchellcoaching.com\\\/staging\\\/8673\\\/\"},{\"@type\":\"ListItem\",\"position\":2,\"name\":\"Ride the Wave\"}]},{\"@type\":\"WebSite\",\"@id\":\"https:\\\/\\\/kmitchellcoaching.com\\\/#website\",\"url\":\"https:\\\/\\\/kmitchellcoaching.com\\\/\",\"name\":\"Karin Mitchell Coaching\",\"description\":\"Life Coaching\",\"potentialAction\":[{\"@type\":\"SearchAction\",\"target\":{\"@type\":\"EntryPoint\",\"urlTemplate\":\"https:\\\/\\\/kmitchellcoaching.com\\\/?s={search_term_string}\"},\"query-input\":{\"@type\":\"PropertyValueSpecification\",\"valueRequired\":true,\"valueName\":\"search_term_string\"}}],\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\"},{\"@type\":\"Person\",\"@id\":\"https:\\\/\\\/kmitchellcoaching.com\\\/#\\\/schema\\\/person\\\/3dcf17a0be07adcca714da4461bf0b89\",\"name\":\"Karin Mitchell\",\"image\":{\"@type\":\"ImageObject\",\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\",\"@id\":\"https:\\\/\\\/secure.gravatar.com\\\/avatar\\\/0a08ef21e00718d02c8ef6ecd1a5eb6648de36449d23cd9a063fc63d8fd921d6?s=96&d=mm&r=g\",\"url\":\"https:\\\/\\\/secure.gravatar.com\\\/avatar\\\/0a08ef21e00718d02c8ef6ecd1a5eb6648de36449d23cd9a063fc63d8fd921d6?s=96&d=mm&r=g\",\"contentUrl\":\"https:\\\/\\\/secure.gravatar.com\\\/avatar\\\/0a08ef21e00718d02c8ef6ecd1a5eb6648de36449d23cd9a063fc63d8fd921d6?s=96&d=mm&r=g\",\"caption\":\"Karin Mitchell\"},\"description\":\"Karin Mitchell is a certified Life Coach, Mental Health Counselor, Meditation Teacher, and Speaker. She believes in the fundamental goodness of all people, and that everyone possesses the capacity to make real and lasting changes in their life.\",\"sameAs\":[\"http:\\\/\\\/kmitchellcoaching.com\"],\"url\":\"https:\\\/\\\/kmitchellcoaching.com\\\/staging\\\/8673\\\/author\\\/kmitchell\\\/\"}]}<\/script>\n<!-- \/ Yoast SEO plugin. -->","yoast_head_json":{"title":"Ride the Wave - Karin Mitchell Coaching","robots":{"index":"index","follow":"follow","max-snippet":"max-snippet:-1","max-image-preview":"max-image-preview:large","max-video-preview":"max-video-preview:-1"},"canonical":"https:\/\/kmitchellcoaching.com\/staging\/8673\/ride-the-wave\/","og_locale":"en_US","og_type":"article","og_title":"Ride the Wave - Karin Mitchell Coaching","og_description":"What is the hardest part of being human? I would argue that most people&#8217;s answer to that question would have to do with dealing\u00a0with difficult emotions that stem from difficult life situations. Something bad or burdensome happens and we feel a certain way. Often we feel ANGRY or SCARED, or perhaps even SAD and LONELY. These [...]","og_url":"https:\/\/kmitchellcoaching.com\/staging\/8673\/ride-the-wave\/","og_site_name":"Karin Mitchell Coaching","article_published_time":"2017-08-16T06:19:50+00:00","og_image":[{"width":795,"height":797,"url":"https:\/\/kmitchellcoaching.com\/staging\/8673\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/07\/Ride-The-Wave2.png","type":"image\/png"}],"author":"Karin Mitchell","twitter_card":"summary_large_image","twitter_misc":{"Written by":"Karin Mitchell","Est. reading time":"2 minutes"},"schema":{"@context":"https:\/\/schema.org","@graph":[{"@type":"Article","@id":"https:\/\/kmitchellcoaching.com\/staging\/8673\/ride-the-wave\/#article","isPartOf":{"@id":"https:\/\/kmitchellcoaching.com\/staging\/8673\/ride-the-wave\/"},"author":{"name":"Karin Mitchell","@id":"https:\/\/kmitchellcoaching.com\/#\/schema\/person\/3dcf17a0be07adcca714da4461bf0b89"},"headline":"Ride the Wave","datePublished":"2017-08-16T06:19:50+00:00","mainEntityOfPage":{"@id":"https:\/\/kmitchellcoaching.com\/staging\/8673\/ride-the-wave\/"},"wordCount":438,"commentCount":0,"image":{"@id":"https:\/\/kmitchellcoaching.com\/staging\/8673\/ride-the-wave\/#primaryimage"},"thumbnailUrl":"https:\/\/kmitchellcoaching.com\/staging\/8673\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/07\/Ride-The-Wave2.png","keywords":["being authentic","coping mechanisms","growth mindset","presence","strategies","thoughts","wellness"],"articleSection":["Anger Management","Emotions","Mindful Practices","Stress Management","Understanding","Vulnerability"],"inLanguage":"en-US","potentialAction":[{"@type":"CommentAction","name":"Comment","target":["https:\/\/kmitchellcoaching.com\/staging\/8673\/ride-the-wave\/#respond"]}]},{"@type":"WebPage","@id":"https:\/\/kmitchellcoaching.com\/staging\/8673\/ride-the-wave\/","url":"https:\/\/kmitchellcoaching.com\/staging\/8673\/ride-the-wave\/","name":"Ride the Wave - Karin Mitchell Coaching","isPartOf":{"@id":"https:\/\/kmitchellcoaching.com\/#website"},"primaryImageOfPage":{"@id":"https:\/\/kmitchellcoaching.com\/staging\/8673\/ride-the-wave\/#primaryimage"},"image":{"@id":"https:\/\/kmitchellcoaching.com\/staging\/8673\/ride-the-wave\/#primaryimage"},"thumbnailUrl":"https:\/\/kmitchellcoaching.com\/staging\/8673\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/07\/Ride-The-Wave2.png","datePublished":"2017-08-16T06:19:50+00:00","author":{"@id":"https:\/\/kmitchellcoaching.com\/#\/schema\/person\/3dcf17a0be07adcca714da4461bf0b89"},"breadcrumb":{"@id":"https:\/\/kmitchellcoaching.com\/staging\/8673\/ride-the-wave\/#breadcrumb"},"inLanguage":"en-US","potentialAction":[{"@type":"ReadAction","target":["https:\/\/kmitchellcoaching.com\/staging\/8673\/ride-the-wave\/"]}]},{"@type":"ImageObject","inLanguage":"en-US","@id":"https:\/\/kmitchellcoaching.com\/staging\/8673\/ride-the-wave\/#primaryimage","url":"https:\/\/kmitchellcoaching.com\/staging\/8673\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/07\/Ride-The-Wave2.png","contentUrl":"https:\/\/kmitchellcoaching.com\/staging\/8673\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/07\/Ride-The-Wave2.png","width":795,"height":797},{"@type":"BreadcrumbList","@id":"https:\/\/kmitchellcoaching.com\/staging\/8673\/ride-the-wave\/#breadcrumb","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"name":"Home","item":"https:\/\/kmitchellcoaching.com\/staging\/8673\/"},{"@type":"ListItem","position":2,"name":"Ride the Wave"}]},{"@type":"WebSite","@id":"https:\/\/kmitchellcoaching.com\/#website","url":"https:\/\/kmitchellcoaching.com\/","name":"Karin Mitchell Coaching","description":"Life Coaching","potentialAction":[{"@type":"SearchAction","target":{"@type":"EntryPoint","urlTemplate":"https:\/\/kmitchellcoaching.com\/?s={search_term_string}"},"query-input":{"@type":"PropertyValueSpecification","valueRequired":true,"valueName":"search_term_string"}}],"inLanguage":"en-US"},{"@type":"Person","@id":"https:\/\/kmitchellcoaching.com\/#\/schema\/person\/3dcf17a0be07adcca714da4461bf0b89","name":"Karin Mitchell","image":{"@type":"ImageObject","inLanguage":"en-US","@id":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/0a08ef21e00718d02c8ef6ecd1a5eb6648de36449d23cd9a063fc63d8fd921d6?s=96&d=mm&r=g","url":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/0a08ef21e00718d02c8ef6ecd1a5eb6648de36449d23cd9a063fc63d8fd921d6?s=96&d=mm&r=g","contentUrl":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/0a08ef21e00718d02c8ef6ecd1a5eb6648de36449d23cd9a063fc63d8fd921d6?s=96&d=mm&r=g","caption":"Karin Mitchell"},"description":"Karin Mitchell is a certified Life Coach, Mental Health Counselor, Meditation Teacher, and Speaker. She believes in the fundamental goodness of all people, and that everyone possesses the capacity to make real and lasting changes in their life.","sameAs":["http:\/\/kmitchellcoaching.com"],"url":"https:\/\/kmitchellcoaching.com\/staging\/8673\/author\/kmitchell\/"}]}},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/kmitchellcoaching.com\/staging\/8673\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/12977","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/kmitchellcoaching.com\/staging\/8673\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/kmitchellcoaching.com\/staging\/8673\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kmitchellcoaching.com\/staging\/8673\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kmitchellcoaching.com\/staging\/8673\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=12977"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/kmitchellcoaching.com\/staging\/8673\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/12977\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":12995,"href":"https:\/\/kmitchellcoaching.com\/staging\/8673\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/12977\/revisions\/12995"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kmitchellcoaching.com\/staging\/8673\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/12994"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/kmitchellcoaching.com\/staging\/8673\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=12977"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kmitchellcoaching.com\/staging\/8673\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=12977"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kmitchellcoaching.com\/staging\/8673\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=12977"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}